Individual Therapy for Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families
Children of alcoholics and dysfunctional families carry a unique burden. You may wonder why you are so eager for approval in your adult relationships or why you are addicted to excitement. Adults who grew up with dysfunction or addiction in their homes often feel guilty when they stand up for themselves or have trouble developing trusting, loving relationships. If you recognize that there was dysfunction in your home as a child, therapy will help you to break free from the patterns that are holding you back. We will work together to process past trauma, evaluate strained relationships and create a new, fulfilling future.
Individual Therapy for Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families is perfect for adults who:
- Come from families where alcohol or drugs were or currently are being abused
- Grew up in a militaristic or abusive home
- Would like to process past family trauma, abandonment, or disappointment
Do you recognize any of the Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families Laundry List traits in yourself?
- We became isolated and afraid of people and authority figures.
- We became approval seekers and lost our identity in the process.
- We are frightened by angry people and any personal criticism.
- We either become alcoholics, marry them or both, or find another compulsive personality such as a workaholic to fulfill our sick abandonment needs.
- We live life from the viewpoint of victims and we are attracted by that weakness in our love and friendship relationships.
- We have an overdeveloped sense of responsibility and it is easier for us to be concerned with others rather than ourselves; this enables us not to look too closely at our own faults, etc.
- We get guilt feelings when we stand up for ourselves instead of giving in to others.
- We became addicted to excitement.
- We confuse love and pity and tend to “love” people we can “pity” and “rescue.”
- We have “stuffed” our feelings from our traumatic childhoods and have lost the ability to feel or express our feelings because it hurts so much (Denial).
- We judge ourselves harshly and have a very low sense of self-esteem.
- We are dependent personalities who are terrified of abandonment and will do anything to hold on to a relationship in order not to experience painful abandonment feelings, which we received from living with sick people who were never there emotionally for us.
- Alcoholism is a family disease; and we became para-alcoholics and took on the characteristics of that disease even though we did not pick up the drink.
- Para-alcoholics are reactors rather than actors.
If you recognize any of these qualities, you may benefit from counseling for Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families. Please contact me to discuss treatment options.